A "Thought for the Day" Can Create Relationship Magic

I rarely seem to be at a loss for words, most people close to me carry a spare roll of duct tape to use in case of emergency to shut me up when I get on a roll and ramble on and on and on... But being one that is rarely at a loss for words, nor is short on opinion and thought... It was only natural that one of my posts daily would venture into this forum, which leads to either comment or acceptance, after trying to garner some order on my wall, giving it some consistency, aka repeatability... I had started one day with saying something rather witty, at least in my mind it was witty... After mentioning I had just had gotten another cup of coffee, I started rambling about something a old love interest had done in our relationship and I stated "she was crazier than a hoot owl flying upside down through a pine thicket"... Chef Willy, (my alter ego), 2011... Something to ponder out there... I re-referenced my coffee, with, "2 sugars and cream"... And ended it with a "Peace Y'all"... Here is an example from an actual post..

April 3, 2012

"Well taking a quick break from writing and getting another cup of the nectar of the Gods... Thunderstorms have turned to sunshine and blue skies and what better time for a thought for the day... "To achieve ones dreams you have to stay focused and never give up, belief in yourself and that you can do anything you set your mind to. The emotional support of others that don't drag you backwards can feed your desire and drive to accomplish and success will be found" Food for thought from Chef Willy 2012, simplistic in its recipe... So when you see others in your life, be it friends or family trying to reach for what is just beyond their grasp, encourage, support and rejoice when their success finally comes, the effort will bear fruit in return when reaching for the dreams within your own heart and mind.. 2 sugars and cream... Peace y'all"

The next day, a couple of ladies came on my face book wall and asked if I had anymore sayings for that day, like the day before... I asked if they wanted a "thought for the day" and hence that post, usually my second post of the day, was born... For a few weeks, I used my own material, writing romantic thoughts, or life thoughts, always staying on the positive side of things, you know follow your dream stuff, never give up no matter what life throws at you stuff, ect ect ect... Well there finally came a day when I just didn't have time to pull a pearl of wisdom out of my back pocket...

Dilemma time, when in doubt and lost, Google to your hearts content... So I jumped on a Google search bar and typed in "Love thoughts"... And low and behold site after site came up with hundreds of "Love" thoughts and quotes... Way cool, what a time saver, so on the days when I was to busy, aka lazy, I could just jump on one of these sites and grab something that fit the category I was looking for, relationships, funny, love, dreams, life, success, sports, ect quotes and thoughts and slap it into a post, ala cut and paste, surround it with my usuals and bala boom, bala bang, its done... Here is an example of that:

April 10, 2012
"Well the time on the clock and the lack of coffee in the mug, lends itself to call for a break and refill... So while moments of non productivity are addressed, a thought shall be passed your way to ponder from a romantics heart... “I would rather have eyes that cannot see; ears that cannot hear; lips that cannot speak, than a heart that cannot love”.. Robert Tizon A beautiful sunsets moment addressed.. Ponder away... 2 sugars and cream... Peace Y'all"

As you can see, this post was from today, so I guess I was rather busy, more probable is being on face book to long chatting with friends instead of doing what I needed to be doing, research and data for marketing, so off to Google and searched up this Robert Tizon quote and did my post... This "thought for the day" is so in trenched on my wall that if I don't post something like this, I start getting inboxes, wall posts, email and even calls on my cell, checking to see if I am okay.. Because a few hundred everyday, across the USA have their morning coffee in their various time zones and read my thought for the day.. Now predominantly they are 95% women and most of my thoughts lend themselves to the romantic side of life and once again always positive in nature. Venus loves a Mars that likes romance, and a romantic quote dealing with the positives of love... Well I score a ton of points and hear a lot about "wish you were single", "wish my man would think just part of the time like you do", "oh my god I love what you write, it is like you are looking into my heart..." Now of course I hear from some of my male friends who say I am being way to much on this poetic thought kinda thing, whimpy is used, but I remind them, they have 20-30 women on their wall and I have 2200-2300, they never hear me bitch or complain about not having someone to go out with, or how do I meet a good lady, I think I would rather be me, because this works, flat out and period... Can't tell me I am "Crazier than a Hoot Owl flyin upside down thru a pine thicket"...

Okay what does this "Thought for the day" truly do???

It can hold the hint of Romance, show a positive philosophical side of yourself, you, on the Mars side of things, are reaching with this post to find middle ground with the Venus side of things, to open communications, spur interest, in search of the possibility of some form of relationship to begin with. Consistently doing this kind of post, daily or every other day helps people (Women/Men) start setting a pattern of returning to your wall to see what you have put up, repeatability, which becomes the seed from which relationships can be grown and flourish...

I am grateful my Venus isn't the jealous type and laughs a lot about all the attention I spawn from females on my wall and my "Thoughts for the Day" is one of the biggest attention draws... Use my style, the rough format and make the "Thought for the Day" your own. I personally stick with mostly just a few categories, love/romance, life, dreams, and goals... There are so many paths you could take with this depending on what your hook is and your comfort zone.. For example maybe you are a sports nut and want to find someone driven as you are in that area, use sports thoughts or quotes, they can be deep or humorous... Yogi Bera is perfect for off the wall, funny sports quotes...
Philosophical thoughts and quotes, religious thoughts and quotes ect... Use your own thoughts and philosophy and remember to always state where the thought or quote came from, you or whomever..

In the column to the right you will find a list of Thoughts and Quotes sites that have a wide variety of subject matter.. Feel free to go through them and experiment on what you want to do on your wall.. Have fun with it, but don't be crude, rude and socially unacceptable, guys this won't fly but every now and then, rarely do I cross this line, I try my best to stay out of the gutter, respect, not disdain is what you are after and the aforementioned will garner you the best results..

Next up, topic wise we will touch on how to find people in the interest category you want and how to get them to friend or follow you. We will start integrating twitter social media into this next post, along with Facebook..

I hope you enjoyed this post and are able to take from it some ideas to better enhance your wall on Facebook and or Google +, to attract interest from the gender you desire.. If you could, leave a comment on what you thought.. Please bookmark, rss feed or share it if you would, on your social media venues...

Well thank you for visiting and I just wanted in closing to send you smiles from your bud on the Lake they call Ackerson... :)


Peace Y'all

What do Men Want in a Woman

Hard to figure at times what men in general want from a relationship... What is the type of woman who can lock them up for good, take away the desire to wander... What do men want? Other than the woman that will jump when a "samich and a beer" is demanded... Hey I am saying that tongue and cheek...

If I demanded that from my lady, I know the look I would get and the probable response... So in my own house, fear would rule out ever making such a demand... But there are subtle ways that the "samich and beer" would arrive on location without chauvinistic under tones.. The "How's" on that statement will be left for another post, of which should be in the rather near future.

Of course the old vanguard thought process, that a woman is there to wait on their significant other, hand and foot, might generationally hold credence in some circles in the want process category. Personally I can say that is inviting, but logic tells me in truth at least in my life experience that "that dog won't hunt"...

Then of course there is definition of a modern relationship, with politically correct tones, of equal partners in all aspects. Some men will, I am sure fall into that category... Every aspect of life together discussed and middle ground always attempted to achieve for formulation of the relationship in all day to day aspects and relationship goals in their life...

But the main stream, of which I consider myself in, will fall somewhere between the two, more of a give and take where in some regards and instances one gender/significant other is more dominant than the other.. Now in making that statement I am not going categorically into areas you might think..

Throwing gender out the window, the strengths of the individual would grant lead in a relationship in individual categories of a relationship. For instance the cooking aspect and kitchen, that's my territory, Chef Willy rules that land and I am not giving up my rights because of old stereotypes of women in the kitchen. But will compromise on occasion because I love the relationship aspects and romance of preparing a romantic meal together... Something sensual about rubbing elbows and tasting things together as they are prepared... For some reason in my household that can lead to so many other fun activities, so to speak..

From my standpoint and that of my alter ego, Chef Willy, the give and take in a relationship is what is important.. I want my Venus to be the one at times to take the lead in things... I love to surprise, but want to be surprised on occasion myself.. I want my Lady to be assertive and have a mind of her own, feel comfortable within our relationship. I don't deal with jealousy very well, so I want someone that doesn't live with the green eyed monster. Family oriented, yet realizes there is a need for adult time, aka quality time together without being a mommy or daddy... I can go on and on...

But "What do Men Want"??? "What Do Women Want"??? You have to take it, individual to individual, get to know their wants and needs and adjust accordingly, not change, but adjust to blend your wants and needs with that of your significant other.

Venus/Mars Aspects, a constant learning and evolving process... Never stand pat, always keep on learning and growing together, communication open and free to speak ones mind will lend itself to the state of a strong desired relationship..

I hope you have been able to glean some ideas to help you along, if this has given you some food for thought, please leave a comment, share it to the right on Facebook or Twitter, bookmark my blog or click on our RSS feed so you can come back with each post and get more ideas.

Thanks for visiting and I just want to send a smile your way, from your bud on the Lake they call Ackerson... :)


Peace Y'all

Relationships, Face Book and the First Post of the Day

I love using the medium of FaceBook, I actually lose track of time when I jump on there in the morning to leave my first post... A morning post usually before I go to work is an essential, other wise there might be hell to pay... Seems I have through time developed a little bit of a following on my morning posts and primarily female I might add... Which being the heterosexual that I am, is a terrible thing... (Tongue firmly placed in Cheek)

I try and cover just basic things that are positive by nature, all wrapped around the necessities of morning, coffee = cognitive thought... A positive post, on attracting continued response is a have too... No one wants to listen or read per say, negative after negative... Women, at least from my experience, and please for god sakes don't take me as a expert on women, "NO Man" and I mean "NO Man" can ever be a expert on women. They let you think you are starting to get a handle on figuring them out, then they do an about face and go off in a completely different direction.. So I am grasping and stating based on what has happened, not trying definitively to see into the female future...

I got side tracked here for a moment, like my beagle chasin a rabbit, then see's a squirrel.. On my morning posts I never hang my hat on anything negative, if bringing up what maybe a negative subject I always try and find the silver lining in it..

"Glass is always half full theory"

But for the most part I always stay in the land of positive!!! I always end my first posts of the day with "Sending out smiles from Ackerson Lake" in some form and closing with "Peace Y'all".. A little southern vernacular never hurt anybody and God knows I speak my southern English as natural as I please, in stealing lyrics from the country group Alabama... I stay always being myself, which is always the best person for you to always put out there...

No complications that way... And you never get lost on who you are putting out there, by just being yourself...

Back to the first post of the day, like I said before, I need to watch it cuz I do get side tracked easily.. lol Just like the time with my first wife, yes I said first wife... That subject matter will be broached in another post down the road... Life experience can grant you wisdom, especially from the Land of Mistakes... Any way the first time my 1st wife and I drove on Daytona Beach, talking convertible on the sand I am trying to take it all in, the surf, sand, all the ambiance.. I nearly drove into the ocean, see there were these two blondes with string bikinis on walking towards the beach and string wasn't quite right, dental floss would be more like it and after spending the last couple of years in the frozen tundra of the northern plains states, seeing those blonde, shall I say beauties, definitely caught my eye and focused my attention else where other than driving on the beach. Well my wife got me refocused quickly with a sharp elbow to the ribs and a rhetorical question "What are you looking at?"... So needless to say with example, I do have this tendency to side track and sometimes it can be painful getting back on track... Still smiling though after all these years on that memory...

I am relatively consistent in my daily first post, always starting with a general greeting to all, example, "Good morning face book familia"... I am of Italian heritage and integrate or try and integrate some of my heritage in on occasion.. Another little tidbit on letting people know who you are... Then I always go off on my coffee, a great ice breaker, tons of people drink coffee and those that don't will comment with their beverage of choice, clanking mugs and well wishes of a good day.. Light and fluffy it is, but it lays the ground work for ease in communicating.. Wednesdays are always "Happy Hump Day", and Friday's, "Happy TGIF"..

Common ground and laying positive groundwork leads to a greater ease in return of communication, thus friendship aspects and that of greater relationship possibilities down the road.. Everything is wrapped around positive communication...

Now I am out going to say the least and a lot of you out there aren't... And I truly mean always be yourself, there is enough game playing going on out there in face book land and in time people will see through a facade and it will leave you with the feeling of having dog bone underwear on, as people are chewing on your ASS, so to speak... So tailor your first post of the day to your personality, create hooks that are identifiable to you...

Hooks equal words or phases people can associate to you... I will go into greater detail on hooks in a future post. What I want to impress upon you today in your first post of the day, is making it your own and try and connect with the masses not just one individual. I don't know how many times I have been told when getting friend requests from people, usually women I don't know, is how a mutual friend of ours has shared my first morning post with this person and they liked it and wanted to be friends... All because of the positive approach I put out there in the Land of Face Book..

Let me recap what we have covered today, since in my own amid able fashion, I have gotten side tracked on occasion here..

• Start out with a general greeting to the masses..
• Find a hook topic to incorporate daily, coffee, weather, sports, kids, politics ect..
• Always stay positive, even when dealing with negative subject matter, find a silver lining..
• Show feeling and caring in your post... This doesn't show weakness, but strength in compassion.
• End your post with a thought or a gesture... My example "Peace Y'all", "Smiles from Ackerson Lake"...

In doing these things you are breaking down walls with people and will encourage response and interaction.. I have written here mostly targeting males, this is truly a Venus and Mars thing, the Genders are as different as the day is long. And finding someone special, non gender specific, both traditional or non traditional pairings, aka alternative life styles or people in general to have social interaction with takes being yourself, but also formulating common ground from which communication can grow.. So one must bend a little, adapt to the needs of those you want to focus on and reach, to attain what you seek in social media for relationships and interaction.

I don't profess to know it all, I just know what works for me, I have nearly 2500 friends on face book, of which 22-2300 are female, there is a reason for this... My voice in radio dictated demographics of predominantly women following me, on face book, style and the written word have taken the place of baritone conveyance.. I am just using what I do, which is me being me and certain methodology to garner what I am looking for in relationships within the confines of Social Media..

Y'all have a great day and thank you for stopping by to read and ponder my thought process... My next post will cover what I do for thoughts for the day and to drive more response of mostly the positive nature mind you, from those of the fairer sex...

I love triggering Venus to communicate with Mars... So way cool...

Please leave comments, constructive preferred and let me know what you think..

From the tranquil shores of the Michigan Lake they call Ackerson, smiles to you my friends, until we meet again...